Don't wake up your neighbors with this one.
By Savvvy Team
December 11, 2021
Let's face it. The same person, every time, everyday (okay, maybe not everyday) can sometimes feel like it can become a chore.
No one likes that feeling.
Trust me, we've all been there. This intrigued me into looking more into this topic and I sort of became obsessed with it.
One of the biggest take away that I learned is that your energy and mood plays the biggest role in the bedroom.
Without begin present, comfortable, and in a safe space then really nothing else in the article matters.
Try to relax, take a breather, and enjoy the moment while it is happening.
Here are some ways to spice up that sex life of yours and surprise your significant other, or better yet yourself.
Communication
Talk about what pleases you and which positions feels the best. Talk it out and express what it is you want.
This one is easier said than done. Try some sexy talk as well and make it hot.
It does not have to be weird or awkward, allow it to be fun and experimental.
Stop focusing on sex
Yes, stop focusing so hard on it. Let it go, and let it flow.
When we put focus on the actual act we are not fully present. It is important to allow your intuitive body to do what it does best.
Try something new
We are already always searching for the newest thing and our sex life is not any different.
You may have a go-to-move or routine but you need to knock it out the park by coming in left field with something wild, hot, and fun.
Need some new kinky ideas, try these out the next time you get down and dirty.
Get in the mood
You are busy all day, running errands, picking up the kids, cooking dinner, when do you even have time to think about sex!
I am sure most of us also make time for that throughout the day if not we get home and too tired to even do anything.
But, you may have to find sometime to get yourself in the mood.
Maybe send out a kinky text, fantasize about the position you want to be, you can even try this while you are out and about in the grocery store or doing a task.
Just let your mind wonder.
Write down your fantasies
Sometime even writing it down can become such a turn on. Write down a kinky novel like situation.
Write down the positions you want to try the next time you are between the sheets.
If you need a push in the right direction check out some handy work by exotic writers who will help get your mind going.
Use Lubricant
It may not always work the way you want it to, or like it use to.
Get some safe-free chemical lubricant to set the mood and trust me when I say it will be smooth sailing.
Educate yourself
Learn about what positions will work best for you and your partner. What spots work for you best?
Educate yourself on each other's body parts and have fun experimenting. You may even think about turning this part into a game for you and your partner.
Practice Mindfulness
Practice begin in the moment. This may be the most important part of enjoying sex with your partner.
Do not allow the stresses of the world from your day to come into the bedroom.
Allow yourself to know that each day is a new day and that sex is such a sacred act that it may just actually bring you healing rather than just a distraction from the world.
Try Aphrodisiacs
I love doing this one!
My favorite one to try is as simple as perfume. Smell is powerful and one of our senses that can make or break a connection.
However aphrodisiacs does not always have to be just scents, you can also add food to the mix. Chocolate covered strawberries anyone?
Practice
You know how the saying goes, practice makes perfect. This is the same for some inside the bedroom action. Now, this is not to say if you are single go out and practice on whoever.
You can take this time to practice on yourself and find out what feels good for you.
So when the time comes to add someone into the bedroom you are well aware of your body and soul's desire to connecting with another.
Give yourself time
Do not expect to finish right away or to have an amazing time every time.
Give yourself and your partner sometime to get acclimated with each other.
Embrace the unexpected when it comes to sex. You will be surprised and amazed as what happens.
Foreplay
You always preheat the oven before putting the chicken in, right? So why would you not use the same concept in this scenario.
Preheating, setting up the scene, getting warmed up, talking dirty, touching, or even just rubbing on one another is a hot way to get things going for the finale.
There are many different things you can do with foreplay. My favorite one is having lingerie underneath my outfit while I am out eating dinner with my partner.
Knowing the only thing that will be left on after getting back are my heels.
Pleasure yourself in front of your partner
There is nothing more hot than watching my partner getting off while I get off.
I mean, come on.
You will have your partner going crazy watching you pleasure yourself that he will be rushing in on the action.
Take your time with this one and allow the tease to go on just long enough that the finale is to epic.
Practice Touching
Have you ever had someone touch you in an unexpected place and you just lose it? I hope your answer is yes.
Sometimes it just starts with a touch and then goes on from there. Allow yourself to get touch in different areas that usually do not get touch.
Think of your partners body and how sexy it is, how you just can't wait to get your hand on it.
Now, think about areas on your partner's body that does not get enough attention, then give it. You will have your partner wanting you more.
Try different positions
This one is pretty obvious if you want to keep things steamy in the sheets. We are always searching for newer things so sex is not any different. We all get bored so it is important to spice things up!
Look into positions you are interested (and able) to do. Don't break the bank or your back with this one.
Relax
Breathe. Relax. Sit back, and enjoy.
Your partner and you are there to enjoy each other's body and by relaxing the two of you will be able to do just that.
If it helps, plan out when the two of you will get down and dirty so you can give yourself enough time to relax and get in the mood.
You both will thank yourself later.
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