I must be part squirrel, I attract all types of nuts.
By Savvvy Team
October 9, 2021
Let's face it, for those of us who have been using dating apps throughout the years it has not gone too well in terms of finding long-term love.
It's best going into these unchartered territories without expectation.
In this article, we will discuss
Making sure you are taking your times uploading quality pictures of yourself. First impressions matter.
Reasons why you should not expect anything or anyone from dating apps or site.
Why you need to state your intentions right away, know what you want.
Be honest with yourself so you are honest with others and get the same treatment in return. You are what you attract.
Utilizing your social media for authenticity and personality. Add your profile information, you may be surprised as to who sends you a DM.
1. Redo Your Pictures
Do not take this part for granted as this can make the biggest difference.
That’s right! We are all begin judge based off of our looks on these apps. So, why not start by taking your time to look at your pictures on your profile and have some fun spicing it up.
Make it a photoshoot day for yourself and you will be sure to upgrade your profile.
You can use your pictures to show your creative side (or not) or show your prospects more about who you are.
Please refrain from adding filters, this can make someone look like a different person.
Don't worry about getting a professional to take your pictures. As long as you have a phone here are some items you can get to enhance your own personal photoshoot day.
Use a Ring light or use natural light
Tripod
2. State Your Intentions
There is nothing more frustrating then matching with someone who does not know what they want!
Do not let this be you.
If you do not know what you want from dating apps then maybe you should take some time to figure out the reasons why before making the commitment of getting on.
You are dealing with real people, with real emotions.
Figure out if you are wanting something serious or just a casual fun night. Most of us are not aware of what we are getting ourselves into until it's either too late or the decisions are made for us.
Ask yourself a series of questions based on where you see your life going to end up matching yourself with someone who has the same intentions and state this on your profile.
No intentions are still intentions.
3. Be Interesting
Who likes boring ?
Do not let your profile or your conversations scream boredom as this will be a reflection of you. And, first impressions matter.
There are just an overload of option of people and disappointments is just as much.
Be aware that even having a bad day may make you seem like you are boring when in reality you are just over dating apps and what it comes with.
If you are feeling the dating-app-fatigue it's okay to take a break and recharge your mental battery as you may pass out on a great option when feeling groggy!
4. Stop Begin Lazy
I get it, we've all been there. We are all busy and give time to what we want to give time to.
But this one is just as important as the rest of the items on this list, if not pertinent.
When it comes to our dating life we just become lazy and can not even bother at times and it shows.
Laziness is probably the number one relationship killer so if you are looking for a successful outcome then begin lazy can not become part of the equation.
Do take the time to respond back if you are having a conversation with someone. Do explain when you are busy or get caught up if you are having a consistent conversation with someone and it has been over a week of speaking with them.
Use your time-frame as reference that seems reasonable to the two of you, not just yourself.
5. Be Honest
We've all heard that honesty is the best policy. If you are not, and I repeat, not expecting to meet people in person or not interested after a few days of talking then say something or be careful leading them on.
None of us are mind readers (not sure if I know anyone who is, and no we are not talking about tarot readers).
Be honest and upfront when it comes to your feelings and the time you are dedicating to any relationships, even the online ones.
If you are looking for something serious, state so, and become aware of other people who are not requiting your attention back. Do not settle for anything less!
Communication is key in the beginning as building a strong foundation will dictate how the relationship will go, and, also how long it may last.
Take your power back. We are more powerful than we think.
6. Be Unique
Be you! Be your unique self as much as possible. There will be someone out there who will gravitate to your weirdness and eccentric self.
This will only attract the same vibration you are giving out. But, be careful as not everyone has good intentions.
Make sure you are aware and follow your intuitions. You attract what you are so if you are attracting jerks than take this time to look inward.
Many of us face problems or our troubles get in the way on showcasing who we truly are.
Let your uniqueness come out in your profile with the pictures you chose and the context you add to make you stand out from the crowd.
And let's face it, the crowd is enormous.
7. Add Your Social Media On Your Dating Profile
Most of us are already on our social media platforms more than we are on our dating app profile.
Add this to your dating profile if you are up for it as you may get request from people you would have not matched with otherwise.
It gives the person a chance to get to know who you are outside of your dating profile. It's imperative to know who you may be possibly spending your time with as well and what their interests are.
We tend to investigate the person, look at the types of post they put up, and who has liked them.
We then take it a step further and click on those people's profile and become semi-professional investigators. It is a never-ending cycle that will keep you scrolling.
8. Don't Get Banned
Things happen and sometime when we think someone unmatched us it could have been they were banned and we are left wondering. Of course people do not get banned for no reason, however, things happen.
If you get banned (let's say you won't and you are just reading this part for fun) your profile may be removed and you will lose those who you were in contact with.
This is why exchanging social medias or having that information already on your profile is beneficial just in case you were in the middle of a great conversation.
Mistakes happen and as a women begin banned I can see the problems and issues even men face with this. So be patient and leave your ego out of it.
9. Make An Effort
This goes without saying that the effort you put in is the effort you get out. As simple as that!
If the people you are matching with are not an ideal prospect than I'd recommend taking a look at your profile, your mental state, and making adjustments.
Make an effort with your pictures and the information you put on your profile.
Make an effort staying consistent with the conversations you have.
Begin in a great mind frame can also make the biggest difference and you will be ready to release anyone who is not vibrating at your frequency.
We are who we attract and I can not stress this enough as you may have read this a few time already.
The energy you give out is also for online too.
If you are on the profile just swiping for fun (which is hard not to do when it is set up as a game) just remember that behind the screen there is a real person with emotions.
When you are not responding after making contact this can come back to you and someone who you wanted to message you back will do the same thing to you.
Always remember to treat others how you would like to be treated.
10. Stay Consistent
Just as important as making the effort is begin consistent.
This does not mean making excuses and allowing yourself to continue talking to someone who keeps making them as well.
We all know that you make time for what you want to make time for. Sadly, even if we were given more time we would still find a way to say there is not enough.
If you say you are going to call, then call. If you say you are going to meet up with them, them meet up with them. If something comes up then communicate that.
Here it is once again, everyone say this with me, treat others the way you want to be treated.
If you start a conversation then continue it, and if you are no longer interested and you have already exchanged texts and calls for a week and then just fall off the face of the earth and decided to come back, then just remember, those are their actions and you have allowed it to continue.
If it is not consistent then walk away. You deserve better and nothing less!
11. Don't Expect Anything
That’s right! Do not expect anything. Worry about yourself and what you want to do. Do not expect anyone to message you all the time or wait by the phone expecting a call. What are you doing to yourself?
This may sound a bit harsh but, get a life! When you keep yourself the main priority in your life or family then this attracts people that know your time is valuable and to not take you for granted.
When you expect things you leave room for disappointment and who likes to be disappointed?
Take the way that people are showing you and believe the actions vs their words.
Some people are smooth talkers and know what they are doing but, you, my friend are already 10 steps ahead of them by not having any expectations for anyone, even online.
Conclusion
In this article we discuss ways that you can use dating apps to maximize your outcome.
We are living in an era where things need to be talked about more and as many more of us are trying to find partners on these platforms we are not utilizing them the properly.
Here are the savvy ways to start using your dating app for a better chance at love:
Take better picture to get your best light showing.
Know what your intentions are before you get on the dating apps.
Stay consistent with people you are forming bonds with on and offline.
Consider if you have time to keep connections going by not begin lazy and responding back while building relationships.
Be unique and interesting. Do not be so shy and let your personality shine.
Do not expect anything and just have fun.
Use your social media platform to stay connected with those who may have had issues with their profiles.
Which one of these do you need to work on?
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